Today - Smashing Pumpkins
In concert February 22nd.
If I could bottle just a sliver of the excitement I have right now it would last me a lifetime.
I’m so afraid to waste time that I waste time worrying about wasting time.
Lauren Oliver, Before I Fall
This one hits home for me. Do we still do this today? Observe the moments you do find an idiosyncrasy or two you dislike about others. It’s commonplace to make firm conclusions about how you feel towards people’s particular actions or behaviors. I know it all too well. I used to make rash statements about my friends, acquaintances, family members, coworkers, and even strangers without even inviting questions to underpin the reasons “why they are they way they are.” We reduce our evaluations to mere simplified, destructive descriptions or labels and mistake it for the whole. Words are so powerful that they can cast a spell on us. When we think someone is a slut, fag, hoe, a bitch, a racist, a druggie, selfish, conceited, and all the rest of it, we intensify our views which are inherently false since it disregards any kind of gestalt approach. Gestalt is “a configuration or pattern of elements so unified as a whole that its properties cannot be derived from a simple summation of its parts.” To put it simply it means the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. We are complex human beings coming from a rich history of growth that involves environmental, psychological, social and cultural influences - all of which has created a unique formula that makes you, you. The next time you think of someone with a reductionist attitude, give it a listen to what you’re saying. It is fair? Have you invited questions to build your understanding? Are you at least sensitive to the history you don’t know anything about? Only when we can consider these questions, can we establish tolerance, thus sidelining any quick disagreements while improving relationships altogether. Only when we listen or have the courage to ask questions, can we finally embody a sympathetic awareness of everyone’s personal struggles.
Political level should not dictate the level of insanity that’s acceptable.